Art of lettinG Go thinGs

Art of letting go things
Letting few things and people go from my life has been one of the toughest challenges ever. In fact, dealing with people has always been a bigger challenge and also the most interesting task. It is challenging because these are the same people who have been close to me in the past and fill in some good memories. Every heart craves for friendship, bond, love & emotional attachments. Human desires are never ending. These are the same desires that drive a person in achieving great success. In the absence of reality check, desiring to a certain extent may go out of control. Intelligence lies in realizing that relationships change as situations change with time and quickly adapt for the better.
A coin has 2 faces and so is ways of life. If sadness cannot last too long, so is happiness. There is a cure to everything. My experience is that if nothing else works out, time is the best healer. There are tricks to fool our hearts and minds. Rest assured is taken care by the nature.
I believe in helping friends if I know that I can be of some help to them. I feel the need to help others as a matter of gratitude towards people who have made a difference in my life. One of my old friends has been cribbing about the same things in his life for the last 5 years. Out of courtesy, I have been genuinely helping him with his issues. I have reached a place where I realize that he is a typical breed who doesn’t want to change and face his demons. His comfort lies in getting into the same issues, going through same negative emotions, cribbing to death and boring people with his tell-tale misadventures. It’s high time I stop sympathizing and empathizing with his sad stories and let him get along with his life the way he wants. I mentally get drained injecting positive energy to a hopeless person. It’s tiresome when I know that everything I did was a sheer waste! I wish he is hit with a powerful lightening and the moron gets replaced with a sensible brain.
There are some who show you the world through their pleasing words. We take pleasure in making few promises in a lighter vein. Beware, as those are not meant to be put in actions. The art lies in having no expectations from others. When you know that a friend weighs your worth of long time friendship with only a hundred bucks in the label of ‘tell me whatever u want –gift’ while happily plans for his most expensive trip on the other side. Why say ‘I want to buy u the best gift’ when your intention is to spend only a hundred. For a second, I had become the kid who eyed on a favourite pair of ear rings which is lil more than a hundred rupee.
The ways & styles of healing make the most interesting part of inspirational stories. A thorn can be removed from another thorn. A single drop of amrit (drink of the gods) could make a man immortal and the same drink in excess can be poisonous. Anything that works out just fine!
Some appear whenever they have some work. This is fine if it facilitates two- way round.
Successful people often face difficulty in letting go people who mattered once upon a time. They find it challenging to sustain & nurture the strained relationships. It gives immense pleasure to bring those people back in life. There would be a point where mind becomes hyper, thinking about ways to get them back…
Sometime back, due to various reasons few of my close friends parted ways. I was successful in getting them back and that brought me unbounded joy. Problem starts when our equation is not the same anymore. I strongly felt that I don’t need them if the rapport is’ not beautiful as it was earlier. I liked the time spent together in the past and cherish memories. Truth is if something belonged to us, it will definitely come back to us on its own. The art lies in identifying which one not to keep and to move on in life without regrets and not miss the moments that cannot be recreated. That definitely brings more happiness and peace to my heart.

VuLNeRABiLiTY, at its BeSt

I am more vulnerable now than I ever was !! Being vulnerable is my weakness as well as the greatest strength. I am growing up to accept this fact.

Vulnerability for me is being constantly open to change, transparency, flexible in nature & sometimes it can be my indecisive nature! Unpredictability is the word…

Preferences and tastes keep changing regularly. Thanks to the ample choices.

Every time I update a new post, I have this weird feeling of deleting the blog asap. I tend to write what I feel without judging my thoughts. When I post, I suddenly realize that my feelings are now open for others to read & comment. I suffer from the fear of acceptability. It lasts for sometime.

I like to travel. Visit some fantastic tourist spots with my digicam. I am lil smart n lil intelligent. I know I can take care of myself but my dad is so overprotective that he thinks I am still a small gal and should travel with family or relatives only. He never sent me to the school/ college trips – jus managed 1 trip in graduation. And now I am scared to travel 4m 1 city to another. I want to overcome this fear soon, as I want to go on a world trip – Paris, Melbourne, Amsterdam, Singapore & so on..

No one is perfect. I have flaws too. But there is always a room for improvements.

I fall for the wrong boy. Ahh ! Someone who is not accepting me the way I am can create tornados in my heart. I wished to meet the boy of my dreams, well I did and sooner realized that we just don’t stand up to each other’s expectations. Woww, hez so mesmerizing, lovable & straight from the dreams. Never mind. Its his loss as much as mine. Life moves on 4 the better…

I want to go for; my first smooch only, before the marriage. Just a silly idea & it thrills me. But I have a problem here - the basic values u see. They are so strongly imbibed that even if I get a free ride to go for my first kiss, my mind might be foolish enough to knock some sense at the right time. I might go for it when I like someone a lot. I really want to. Rest of the things can wait till marriage.

In the journey of life, few remain as unforgettable acquaintances and some become close friends. But I don’t insist on continuing every relationship. Not a compulsion! Every night I decide to put an end to few for some reasons, the very next morning my mind demands not to let them go. Its crazy !

Its different strokes to different people. A person can have several amazing facets. Aggressive, diplomatic & dominating at the professional front; Convincing, homely & acceptable at home; Brutally honest, emotional and frank with online friends; Expressing hidden desires, transparent and anonymity on O3; Strength to the weaker; Special to special ones.

Since I never got the people I liked, I convince myself that it was only a short-lived infatuation/crush. Life has taught me to let go people after the last best attempt of restoration. It’s a piece of cake, now. I happen to believe that I have never fallen for anybody - which might be true and might not be. I don’t question the logics or rationality.

The bold side of me wants to go 4 a live in relationship. Sounds better than arrange marriage. The fact is that my family will never accept it. I cannot be very selfish. I find it, very hard at times to bridge my desires & the reality. Its good that way, there has to be limitations as the desires are wild horses.

There is always this curiosity to explore the unknown with a pinch of measured risk. I could not have experienced a better life without feeling life.

I don’t want to escape from anything that life has to offer me !
Every fall makes me stronger than before and better than before !!